Sunday, May 15, 2011

Dating Violence...

As a former teacher, I would be saddened to watch teen relationships sometimes.  Girls would like it when a guy treated them as a possession...It was a source of pride to be called their boyfriends "bitch", etc.  I would watch one person in a relationship alienate the other person in the relationship from their friends and sometimes family.  It would sadden me because they could not grasp the fact that they were still children and high school is for learning and making memories that you can never go back and redo.  What a depressing situation.

Dating violence can happen to any teen regardless of gender, race, socio-economic status, or whether or not they have experience with dating.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 4 adolescents experiences verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse from a dating partner each year.
  
This issue is so serious that several states have passed laws requiring schools to address the issue.

Dating violence includes any behavior by a dating partner that is used to manipulate, gain control, gain power; make a person feel bad about himself or herself; or make a person afraid of his or her boyfriend or girlfriend.

Dating violence can have serious consequences. While the immediate impact might be humiliation and/or physical pain, young people who experience abuse are more likely to be in physical fights or bring weapons to school. They might exhibit higher rates of drug and alcohol abuse as well as high-risk sexual behaviors. Targets of abuse are also more likely to contemplate or attempt suicide.

Boys and Girls and Abuse

Research shows that both girls and boys carry out aggression in relationships and that girls are more likely than boys to initiate physical aggression toward their dating partner. For 2003, the CDC found that 8.8 percent of girls and 8.9 percent of boys reported physical violence from a dating partner during the last 12 months.
Girls tend to stay in a relationship after being injured by dating violence. Also, girls suffer serious injuries such as broken bones or cuts more often than do boys.
Impact of Dating Violence

Research shows a number of effects, both short and long-term as a result of dating violence.

Abusive experiences during adolescent dating relationships may interfere with normal development of self esteem and body image. Victims of dating violence have increased risk for injury, and are more likely to use alcohol and drugs, practice unhealthy weight control behaviors, experience general poor health, engage in risky sexual behavior, become pregnant, or engage in suicidal behavior.

Finally, psychological abuse early in a relationship is linked to later physical abuse in adult relationships.

Abusers’ Risk Factors

Adolescents who become abusive in a dating relationship have several characteristics in common. The following risk factors make it more likely that they will carry out physical, sexual, or emotional dating violence:

  • History of committing dating violence
  • Family conflict and aversive communication
  • Witnessing violence between parents
  • Witnessing violence in the community
  • Believing it’s acceptable to resort to violence in dating relationships
  • Acting physically aggressive toward peers, such as fighting or bullying
  • Using alcohol or drugs
  • Having problems in managing strong negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, or stress
  • Having friends or parents who endorse violent relationships
  • Parents’ use of harsh discipline
Risks for Being Abused
Adolescents who become victims of abuse share several common factors. The following factors increase the risk of being abused:
  • History of dating violence
  • Witness to violence among parents or violence in one’s community
  • Friends who have experienced or are victims of dating abuse
  • Low self-esteem and feelings of hopelessness among females
  • Risky sexual behavior including having multiple sex partners and nonuse of condoms, especially among females
Parents please talk to your children if you feel there are some issues. Let them know that you are there for them.  If you have a friend that it being abused, speak up.  Many times, they may not realize the danger that they are in. Do not let them feel like they are alone with no one to turn to.






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